A Dream for the New Year, Part 3 OF 4
For those just joining in reading this series, all our regular bloggers are weighing in on their hopes and dreams for 2015. Here are two more of our bloggers giving us their thoughts on this topic.
I’m not a dreamer but rather one who quests and questions. Sometimes this does lead me to the land of dreams but that’s rare. To think of dreaming for the New Year challenges me to look beyond the present and quest towards the future. On one level, the undetermined future time is already known – peace, with the lion and the lamb resting together in harmony.
My dreams, if I allow them free reign, range wide to a future that sees all the peoples of the earth dwelling together in harmony; children of every color and ethnicity joyfully playing together, their elders sitting in one another’s homes sharing table fellowship around the Messiah in the midst. In that dream, everything that divides us in this day is forgotten in the light of His face. And all who sit with him from the youngest to the oldest are joyful. Sorrow and sighing are absent, pain and fear are banished.
That’s the far reaching dream, but for the year to come my more realistic dream is to see growing numbers of people willing to move out of their comfort zones and encounter the brother or sister who lives on the other side of the wall that divides our land. If I can dream big, there is no wall, only fields of green between our peoples in this land. Those fields call us to cross and find the gentle flowing waters of fellowship. A dream of sharing without competition and giving with no thought of return. A dream of peaceful seasons, with no words of violence spoken and no weapons of destruction deployed.
One year seems too short for my goal, but it is a start. My ultimate goal is to see our peoples, the Israelis and the Palestinians, living side by side in peace. I call it a goal because it is not a dream. Dreams are something you wish to happen but there is a high probability they won’t happen. I am determined to keep peace a goal - achievable, reachable and real. It is already happening; it just needs to spread more, especially in the political circles. However, this is a goal I spend much of my time achieving, so I wish to share an objective for this year that is more personal and related to this ultimate goal.
Throughout my adult life, I have shared and celebrated many of my friends’ weddings and the birth of their children. Recently, though, I have nearly stopped attending these occasions as they highlight ‘single’ status in the midst of countless couples around me.
When I contemplate when I might make the leap from single to married, I am usually discouraged by my chances. If the average age of marriage for a female Palestinian in Israel is 25.4, then I am past my prime. Or, let’s take a look at it from another perspective, particularly the percentages of single men and women within my age group. There is a 16.1% statistic for single women, and a 2.1% statistic for single men. So according to my logic, a single Palestinian man has more choices of single Palestinian women to choose from, and a single Palestinian woman has far fewer options available to her. My discouragement is valid, right?
Having said this, I do believe there are other fish in the sea, and other options beyond eligible Palestinian men in Israel. To me, marriage is like a journey into the future that two people commit to take together. And for that to happen, they both have to believe that they can handle anything together. But would a possible companion from somewhere other than Israel/Palestine be willing to continue in my current journey, working with me toward my current goal?
It is my choice to live in Israel despite existing discrimination against the many minorities of which I am a part - a woman, an Israeli-Palestinian, a Christian. It is a daily battle to fight this mentally - to reject what is imposed on who I am and what I am worth. I can move away to a more ‘fair and acceptable’ country, but I choose not to. I stay here because I feel strongly about being the change I want to see. And I feel that this hinders my chances of finding a life companion. Is there room for a partner in this goal? Will he want to stay here and fight with me? I need to believe that there is.
My objective for 2015: I need to believe there is someone who will be my companion and who will commit to take this journey with me.
What are you dreaming for and hoping for in 2015? What are your goals? We would love to hear them!